By Renee Pilgrim R.Ac, R.TCMP
You might not think about desire, physical connections and intimacy as important to your health. Did you know that having a sexual impulse is actually a sign of overall health? Sex is fundamental for procreation as well as being linked to our mental health and the health of our organ systems.
As a Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioner, I utilize the principles of Yin and Yang to help me understand my patients and my own relationship to living. Living healthy and fulfilled lives includes respecting and participating in our sexual nature.
Here are my top 5 TCM tools to consider when learning about your own sexuality or engaging with another.
#1 Mind the Limitations
If you read female when you see Yin or male where you see Yang you will set unnecessary limitations to what you allow your sexual experience to be with yourself or with a partner. The binary of Yin and Yang actually cracks the code of sexual stereotypes allowing for deeper understanding and experience of our wholeness.
#2 There are Rules – but they’re relative!
Yin and Yang are opposites; but neither exist without the other present. Opposites can attract and in doing so must be able to embrace other. Yang is assertive and needs to be received. Yin is deep and slow and needs to be stoked.
#3 Use the Force
Knowing we are both forces; an individual being the sum of their parts we are able to access the power of Yang & the subtlety of Yin at any time. Yang nature may be more likely to initiate sex directly but it will the Yin nature that sustains it and deepens the experience. Should Yin initiate, the enticement will be more delicate.
#4 Fire and Water
Yin is water and takes a long time to boil. Yang is fire and it’s heat can burn out quickly. Yin, once heated can stay hot for a long time. Yang not only gets the fire started but can keep things interesting by mixing it up and keeping a sense of play in the game and Yin can take the game to deep levels in our body. Awareness of these natures within ourselves will help us recognize it in another thereby creating the space for fulfilling and enriching sex.
#5 Polar Organs
Yang builds from the bottom up; from the genitals toward the brain. Yin fills from the top down, from the mind to heart then to the loins. Rocking your pelvis, using Kegels will stoke the fire of Yang moving it up the spine and animating us to connect. Recognizing trust and safety will open the Yin natured heart pumping the blood directly to our pelvis creating a hunger that will seek satisfaction.
In clinic when treating fertility, low back pain, anxiety (to name a few conditions) patients will notice the ‘side effect’ of an increased libido and greater enjoyment of their sex life. Using Acupuncture, Chinese Herbal Medicine, Cupping, Gua Sha and Moxibustion we begin to recognize the Yin/Yang movements in the body and strengthen what is weak and soften what is tense.
Learn more about Renee Pilgrim R.Ac, R.TCMP and how she can support you in your transition into better health and mind body awareness with TCM and Acupuncture.
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